Surviving the Odds

Everybody has been through something tragic in life. Many have not lived to tell their stories about it.
I'm alive today and I will tell the whole world about it, hoping that it will inspire someone not to take the same route in life.
Being alive has to be celebrated at all the time, the fact that somebody looks at you and get lifted from their heavy load in life, means you matter a lot than you think.
The sad case would be celebrating to be alive in another dangerous way that can see you right back at the centre of where death wanted you to be before it preys on you.

Somebody head a gun short two houses away from their house, panicked,  had a heart attack and died.
You, on the other hand got robbed, stabbed or short several times before being left to die but you survived.
- How are you celebrating the fact that you are still alive?
- Who has been inspired by your tragedy, and is grateful today to have come across you in life and has learned valuable lessons?

Somebody inherited millions and today they don't even have a cent under their name.
You started your business from scratch, went down two three times and now you are up and runing successfully again.
- How do you celebrate your victory?
- Who are you taking by the hand, shadowing you?
- Do you tell people what to avoid in business or they will have to find out for themselves one day?

Somebody lost a job and has been hospitalised for Over Dosing, in fear of losing their car, moving back home from a townhouse, the collections department calls and having to face friend and relative who knew you as high fligher.
You on the other hand have been out of work for over five years now, you have a wife, kids, house, a car and you are still sober.
- How do you celebrate what life has dished to your plate?
- Is anyone learning from you?
- What have you been doing to maintain sanity?

You had an accident and your car was written off, the second and the third car too and you are still alive.
- How do you celebrate the fact that you are still standing, no disability, no blackouts, not even one operation?
- Who's life has your story changed.
- What is the plan to make sure that the present car does not write you off this time?

You have been divorced, lost everything and started building from point A. People look at you as the cause of it all, they talk bad behind your back. They use your family as an example.
But you are still out there and thriving, you still have your smile and a bright face even after the ordeal.
"To a wrong person you will never be right, to a right person you will know when you are wrong".
- How do you celebrate this opportunity you have now?
- What are the learning you took from the wreckage to be your life lesson for your future?
- How many times do you seat with your children and teach them about the value of life?

You have been diagnosed with a terminal illness, Aids, Cancer, Sugar diabetics.......
It's been ten years now and you still going strong.
Many who told the whole world that you are dying have since passed on before you as a result of car accidents and other natural causes.
- How are you celebrating life everyday?
- Have you taken the next step to be an activist of the sickness you are braving?
- Are you an advocate for those who think it's a death sentence?

We as people have survived many unforeseen and unspeakable things in life. Unfortunately some of the people thing they can drink to that.
I have nothing against alcohol except that it is another killer, when it is abused.
Is it possible to think that you are celebrating to be alive while you are putting your life at another risk?
Risk of driving after you had two or three glasses?
Risk of putting other drivers and pedestrians in danger?
I salute you for having a designated driver, but you have a firearm, another risk,
you become abusive to those around you after two glasses.
Is this the only way you know of celebrating and being greatful to be alive?
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Sharp Pain

If you want to know about sharp pain, ask not a person with a headache,
but a married woman without a child,
Ask a wealthy man or a king without a son,
Ask a father with a fool for a son,
Ask a mother with a ten year old daughter who looks and behave as a twenty year udult,
Ask a separated couple,
Ask a hungry person with no plan or hope for food.
They can write you a book about Sharp pain.

A person/ spouse needs your unwavering support and unconditional love when they are,
down in their sick hospital bed,
Have a courtcase hanging over their shoulders,
Have their business and assets frozen/ liquidated,
Unemployed, blacklisted and depressed,
Lost their last parent, a child, brother or a sister,
Having a difficult boss, who want sexual favours
(something your partner may never have strength to tell you)
Owe money and can not make a repayment,
It's a Sharp pain.

We have a tendency of being there for people who are doing well and neglet those who need a shoulder to cry on.
We pay lip service to terms like, friend, buddy, mpintshi, chomma, and never do what the word requires.
I don't need anyone to show me love and support when,
- I am out of the hospital,
- Nursing my 1st baby at age 45,
- Employed again,
- Successfully bounced back in business,
- Having success in my marriage,
- When I have found an organ donor.

It's amaizing how things fall on those who already have their hands full.
Financial education is much more accessible to those who already have money than those in need.
We even advertise on the net, what about the poorest of them all?
It's more like the rain likes the sea more than the land where people have planted crops.
Drugs are plenty where poverty rule with an iron fist.
Funny, a drug dealers son does not take drugs.....
A daughter of a pimp is not a prostitute....
It's a Sharp Pain

Jesus fed over 5000 hungry people who were not even Christians,
Today over 5000 hungry christians feed one pastor, all they get is his a bumper sticker with a pastor's face in return.
Jesus walked with 12 Disciples,
Today pastor's walk with 12 bodyguards
All this is a sharp pain that an asprin can not numb.

In most cases we think support is having sweet words to say or money to spend on a person, not so.
- A text saying:
"Hey, I trust you well"
"It's gonna be fine"
"Thinking of you"
"I know how you feel"
is all it takes to bring hope and a smile.

- Have you ever felt pain when your body is not painfull?
- When you visit a grieving person, sometimes you just have seat quietly next to them.
- Words can be easily misunderstood at times.
- Support is not money all the time, but your presence or thoughts in writing.

I have felt pain before and I still do from time to time,
I know the sharp pain you've been or still going through,
The feeling that says, "nobody cares"
When you feel like people are talking about your situation.
When you trust no one.
When it feels like it will never end,
God has a way out of your situation, you are in it to gain wisdom.

Psalm: 34.
18. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

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Pastor: L&Q Mthethwa

Life Coaching and Motivation: How to win friends and influence people

Life Coaching and Motivation: How to win friends and influence people: I shall pass this life but once; any good, there fore, that I need to do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it ...

How to win friends and influence people

I shall pass this life but once; any good, there fore, that I need to do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now.
Let me not defer nor neglet it, for I shall not pass this way again.
"Dale Carnegie"

* As a child you head that your parent is not well but you said "I will go see them when I have money, when I am not busy, or next week after my friends party.
- Only for them to pass away before you do.

* You procrastinate telling your siblings, spouse and children that you love them, they actually leave your presence without you kissing them good bye.
- Only for them not to return home forever one day.

* You see the naked but you don't clothe them, you ignor the beggars at the robbot, you see the hungry and you don't feed them.
- How do you forget so soon that you were once naked, hungry, and needy at one point in time?

* Never miss an opportunity to do good, it might be your last, you may never see the person again or the person may never see you ever.
-  But your guilty conscience will never give you rest for not doing what is good and humane.

Life has no guarantees, don't allow time, money and commitments stop you from doing good, lest you never forgive yourself for not seizing that moment.

(A story of my life)
I once drove from Johannesburg to Durban on a half tank, empty wallet and children at the back seat to see my mother at the hospital. Half way through, petrol did the obvious, children were hungry and I had to call on friends, after few declines God was on my side and a brother came through. The money was enough to filled the tank, feed the kids and tollgates.

We spend a Sunday with her(My Mother), she looked beautiful as ever, we said a prayer as we prepared to drive back on family contributions. I paid back every borrowed money on my return. Unfortunately that was the last time I spoke to her as she passed on few days after.
Was I going to heal her?  The answer is no, however I was going there to heal myself. "QB"

I could not let Money, Time and commitments stop me from doing right.
Today I sleep peacefully, because I went against the odds for the right reasons.

I said to myself:
"Let me not defer nor neglet it, for I shall not pass this way again".

Now the ball is in your court, how long are you going to keep grudges........
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